Dear sister, we see you struggling to keep your chin above water.
We see you posting happy things on Facebook.
We see the frantic look in your eyes. The jerkiness of your movements. The extra alertness needed to keep all the plates spinning.
To keep all the illusions intact.
Especially the illusion of “happy”.
We can see you’re not happy.
We can see he’s not happy.
The question for you, dearest sister, is:
Why is it important to pretend?
What would happen if you stopped?
How would your life change, really?
If there is love to lose, it has already been lost.
If there is change to be faced, it has already happened.
We love you.
We see you.
We see this.
There is grace here.
The only one
and really, truly, the only one
who has not accepted
what has already happened
Not everyone is in a perfect, happy, beautiful family today… steeped in generations of honoring the same gravy recipe and using great great grandma’s serving platter for the holiday turkey. It’s not that way for everyone, dear heart. It’s just not.
It’s also not miserable! For some, it is. But take courage, wondering one… I does not have to be that way.
Sometimes, we get thrown in the “in between” don’t we? Years of traditions are gone … just like that. Or maybe they never existed for you.
Whatever it is, it’s going to be ok. It really, really is.
The whole world is not in pairs and happy bundles. Today, your heart might be broken…but it won’t last forever. Nothing does.
Just remember…neither does happiness.
The best boat to ride the ups and downs of life is a peaceful spirit. And you can find it. I know you can!
Step 1: You’re not allowed to beat yourself up any more. Whatever happens, whatever breaks, you are going to hold those embarrassing little pieces in your hands and love them.
Because they are part of you.
And you, my dear one, get to be loved.