Author Archives: ML

Airplanes and Babies

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A friend is traveling with her toddler by plane and asked for some tips. Here were my ideas, and I’m so interested in yours!

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Prepare thyself. It could be amazing. It could be poltergeist.

🌱Take salty snacks and give them to her when the flight attendants are doing the safety talk. Then give her a bottle or sippy cup to drink when the plane takes off. The swallowing will help clear the pressure in her ears. Also, if she’s at all prone to allergies, give her some allergy medicine before you go. Keeping fluid out of her ears and sinus cavities is best when she’s not used to the air pressure in the plane.

🌱Also: take a backpack of new (to her) toys. Separate them in ziploc bags so you can pull out a new ziplock bag when you need it and it will keep her interested. I can loan you some if you want so they’re new to her.

🌱Also: do not let her skip a nap and then think “she’ll sleep on the plane”. WE sleep on planes. Babies seem not to. And then it’s like you’re a sweaty panicked human jungle gym for two hours and everybody’s fried. 💗

🌱Take more diapers than you think you’ll need. You will be changing her in your lap of the seat next to you is taken. Take two lightweight blankets to lay in your lap under her. Also take a few 1 gallon ziploc bags to put dirty clothes in. Take a change of clothes for her and a change of clothes for you on the plane. Easily accessible in the bag by your feet not the overhead.

But First, The Falling

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Even a rocket falls apart to get to the next level. Let what needs to go, go. Travel lighter. Believe in what’s next. Trust that whatever it is, it’s the next step to more joy. More light. More love.

But first, the falling apart.

Wherever you are, wherever you go next, know you are so so loved 💗

xo M

Beautiful Like You

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Be gentle. Be a force to be reckoned with. Be still. Grow. Be all the things. Or none of them.

Here’s the absolute truth: there has ever been, and will only ever be, one of you. Advice is good. Having goals is good. But nothing trumps what you KNOW is right for you. You can feel it in your bones.

It’s your truth. Stand by it and be a best friend to it. It is YOU.

Wherever you go, whatever you do, know you are so so loved.

xo M

Is Your Dream Making You Unhappy?

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The thing is, having a dream can actually make you UNHAPPY. When our real life feels super different from how we want it to be, hopelessness can creep in. It drains our energy and can even lead us to make poor decisions.

The solution is to have a PLAN. I don’t mean a huge excel spreadsheet of timelines and goals (although if that’s your jam, yay you!). At one point in my life, that would have felt inspiring. At this moment with six kids as a single mompreneur, well….it feels a little daunting.

➡️Here’s the thing: a plan can simply be “the next right step”.

🌱So, maybe you want to change careers. Maybe the next right step is to jump on the internet and look at job postings to see what’s interesting to you. Or call a local community organization and offer to volunteer to get some real time experience of what it might be like.

🌱Maybe you want to feel better about parenting. So, today you look at baby pictures and listen to a TED talk about how to stop yelling at your kids.

🌱Maybe you can’t decide whether or not to end your relationship. So, today you spend some time Googling to research: what IS a healthy relationship? How does mine stack up against what’s important to me?

It’s just one day – one decision. To take action. To take the next right step.

But it’s BIG❗️ Because life feels amazingly different when you feel like you’re in charge of YOU and know where you’re headed.

Wherever you are, wherever you go, just know you are so so loved.

xo M

Growth & Worry

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Here’s the thing about crisis:

1. The scald is happening within YOU

2. Your neighbor is going about their every day life, checking expiration dates on milk.

3. Turn down the spotlight. This experience isn’t happening on a stage. Most of your revelation and transforming isn’t even noticeable to ANYONE outside your very best friend who you talk to pretty much every day.

➡️Literally. Everyone else is just still buying milk.

So, if you need to grow…. GROW.

Tell YOURSELF the truth first. Get comfy with it.

You don’t have to worry about TELLING everyone…. just BE different.

Be true to you. The rest will follow 🎶

Wherever you are, wherever you go, you are so so loved.

xo M

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What’s Next For You?

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What’s next for you? It doesn’t have to a big burning pillar of fire…. Lets discover: what are you curious about?

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if you haven’t listened to Elizabeth Gilbert’s “Flight of the Hummingbird” discussion, stop what you’re doing right now and listen. It’s 20 min. It’s life changing 💗

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http://www.oprah.com/own-supersoulsessions/elizabeth-gilbert-the-curiosity-driven-life-video

xo M

Quote: Tyler J McCall

Deciding What’s Next for You

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What if, instead of making a New Year Resolution, you just made a plan?

The first step in that plan is to decide. I mean REALLY decide on what your life is about.

Are you an artist? A writer? Teacher? Landscaper? Accountant? Vintage sign collector? Car repair whiz?

We shrug and grin and say “I don’t know” but down deep….we do.

I think we know what we’re curious about. How we feel best spending our time. What we were born to do.

We’re just so full of questions and don’t know most of the answers.

And who are we anyway? Is this the right time? What if it doesn’t work?

BUT if someone you trust & respect said “you should do this” you would likely feel more courage about it.

If an angel stepped off the subway and said “you should do this” you would likely just go DO it.

Here’s what I want you to know:

YOU are the only person who can give yourself the authority to step into the light. And only YOU can decide

What if you stepped into authority of your own life today?

It requires us to turn down the volume on “what will people think?!”

Way down.

It requires us to listen harder to what WE think. To what OUR heart has to say.

People stick their toe in the water all the time. That’s ok, and I want you to be really clear: that’s not deciding.

Deciding is not rushing out and quitting your job without a plan, it is not moving out without a plan (unless you’re in an abusive #relationship In that case – GO. The plan will happen later)

Deciding is inside work. WE decide. WE step into authority. WE take responsibility for what happens next. WE are in charge of this one life we have.

Here are some ways to decide:

🌱I’m going to do the thing

🌱 I’m going to spend 30 days researching the thing and making plan. On Jan 2, 2019 I’m going to open a checking account in the name of my business

🌱I’m going to do this list of specific things for three months and then on February 1, 2019 I’m going to start telling my friends what I’m doing.

🌱 On Tuesday, I’m going to start volunteering in the community doing what I want to someday get paid for. I’ll gain experience, help people, and build a good reputation.

I believe in you! You are so, so loved

xo M

Where The Truth Is

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Am I the only one who thinks going to the bathroom alone counts as me time?

A few years ago, I started scheduling work appointments for myself to have time to think.

When someone would want that time I would simply say “oh I already have a commitment then, how about…” and then propose another time.

It. Felt. RADICAL.

If you think about it, we have 16 awake hours. That’s 960 minutes.

Could you give yourself 1% of that time today?

Carve out roughly 10 minutes to just sit and think. No phone, no tv, just think. Breathe.

If you have kids like me, maybe during nap time or snack time. Sometimes I just go sit in my car in the driveway. Sometimes they come pound on the windows and I have to try again later ☺️🤷🏻‍♀️

Just so you know: The quiet might get uncomfortable. Just try to notice it and say out loud “oh this feels uncomfortable”.

Stick with it as long as you can. It might just be a minute or two – that’s ok!

There’s a reason why we’re naturally afraid of silence. It’s where the truth is.

Whatever happens, I’m in your corner. And you are so, so, loved.

xo M

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