Let’s talk just for a sec about entanglements. They look like a relationship, they act like a relationship, but they absolutely positively are not. Very simply:

👉🏼RELATIONSHIPS are a place your innermost thoughts and feelings can show up and belong. It’s safe to grow. It’s safe to say “I think I failed” and “I’m scared”.

👉🏼ENTANGLEMENTS are none of that. Your body shows up, you make decisions together, you spend time together, you might even live together and parent together. But you know in your heart of hearts it’s not quite right. Part of you has to stay shut down. Pieces of you have been put away because no matter how hard you try, they’re not understood or appreciated.

If you want to grow, the relationship will encourage and nurture it. The entanglement will react with knee jerk fear and sometimes anger.

✍🏼Entanglements have two options: quit and leave or quit and stay.

If you quit and stayed, know this moment there is still hope. Growth is one decision away. Happier is one decision away. Fulfilled is one decision away.

And let’s get clear – it has nothing to do with the other person. It has to do with YOU.

YOU decide to be a best friend to yourself. YOU decide to grow and do your utmost best to honor the relationship until it either transforms or comes to a natural end.

Remember: a healthy friend/family member/partner will always want YOU to be at your best brightest version of you.

Wherever you are in your journey, just know you are so so loved.

xo M




#growthmindset #growth #relationshipgoals #growth #intimacy #trust #vulnerability #brave #belong

2 responses »

    • Yes absolutely! Relationships, to some degree, our relationships. We label them differently because in some ways they are. But when it comes to the fundamentals… It’s surprising how similar they are


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