Feeling stuck in a relationship is a little like standing on the edge of a cliff. Our mind tells us “it’s all or nothing. I either move and jump to my death or stay here, far away from the amazing life I can see over there for myself.”
Friend, first I just wanna give you the biggest hug in the world and then let’s come over here to the kitchen table and let me know how you like your coffee.
Ok..now then. I want you to know this business of “all or nothing” is something our brain tells us when we’re really upset. It helps keep us safe: fight or flight.
Adrenaline is pumping through our body because we needed to fight dinosaurs or punch out a velociraptor. Or whatever. My history is a little sketchy.
👉🏼Here’s the thing: THERE IS ALWAYS A THIRD OPTION.
Say it with me: there is always a third option.
If you’re feeling stuck in relationship, you might feel like your options are: stay and wither or jump! And it’s so far down!
I want you to know jumping is not required at this moment. Take a few steps back from the ledge. Have a seat.
Think about what you want for your life. If you were going to make a movie about how you wanted your life to be, what would that movie be like?
Notice the feeling inside you as you imagine how your life could be great.
🎯Hear me: that FEELING is the target. Pay attention – the specific life you imagine isn’t the goal. That FEELING is.
Memorize it. Notice the times in your life when you feel that way.
When you’re ready, I want you to stand back up and get curious about the ground all around you. What looks interesting? Explore it. Before long, you’ll notice a foot trail leading off the cliff. Not too steep, ok to walk on, looks interesting.
Grab a bottle of water and take it. Start down that path. Everything is going to be a little scary because it’s new. It’s not the hamster wheel you were just on. That’s ok. Just take a few steps if you can and get a new view. When it gets to be too much, you can head back to familiar and try again when you’re ready.
This…..this is growth. This is unstuck. You are already somewhere different. You did it. Your mind got curious. Your feet will follow. And maybe your partner too 💗
Tag someone who needs to hear this today 👇🏼💗